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Leslie  Cory-Milligan's avatar

Such strength and courage come from the heart, thus the love you have for Ben and the memories you will always have perhaps gave you the ability to read your excellent poem. Thanks for sharing the worst day of your life 💕

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stephanie jones's avatar

oh hell......"death is America's last taboo" could be a title for a book. I'm wrecked and not I share because its what I do. love you family!!!!

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Nancy Usitalo's avatar

Just listened with tears flowing. There’s almost not a time that I go by your camp when images of Ben with little George and Senia pop into my mind, I see them clearly with big smiles . Sometimes in the hammock and other times imbibed. Thanks for sharing this.

Nancy Usitalo

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Nancy Usitalo's avatar

On bikes ! Not imbibed😜

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NattyP's avatar

I echo Stephanie's sentiments. I love what you said about sharing stories as a way to keep Ben alive and grief is honoring how deeply we loved. ♥️

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Cynie Cory's avatar

I echo your echo. Is there an echo?

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CafeCat's avatar

Great reading. Life is there, right in front of us. Wonderful sharing..... :-)

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Wendi Maloy's avatar

Thank you, both… So Important, having this outlet of “writing down the bones.” Every utterance of each word gets us closer to making peace with our most ultimate pain…So glad you have each other…

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Terri Cory's avatar

I applaud Sue for opening her heart in order to let your audience hear about the heartache she felt after learning about her sons death. I felt as though I was there living through it with her. Good job - oth of you

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suzimccourt's avatar

I have one son and I often imagine that I could get through just about anything in the world besides losing him. Thank you for sharing your story. I thought you might be interested in a project that a friend's friend started while grieving the loss of her son.

https://intolightproject.org/history/

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Mary Hunter's avatar

So many memories that our middle son,Zach, shared with both Ben n Edward on Prospect Street n MIP. Never worry that Ben will ever be forgotten…his dry, quiet sense of humor n shy smile will always be in our hearts.

And now our eldest son, Ben has passed,too. He had severe coronary disease as well as diabetes. However, their offspring carry on with great success and their fathers would be so very proud of what their future holds.

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Beth Overholt's avatar

I feel that way about Allison’s death. It’s not something I’ll ever get over. You are not reminding me because I’ll never forget. It’s just a huge hole.

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Cynie Cory's avatar

Dear Beth, my heart is in my stomach while reading your words. My cousin, Sue, and I talked at great length about Ben after recording the video. I talked about Allison and what little I know of her death. There seems to be an overlap in how Ben died. I’m so happy to hear from you, Beth. I will share your comment with Sue. I think you know that Allison and I had a special relationship. I see her at the Women’s March, vibrant and proud. We couldn’t stop hugging. She was the best.

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